The Transformative Power of Perspective:
How shifts in perspective bring about positive change
One of the most
effective tools for a successful life is the power of our
perspective. Our ability to reframe a situation and view it
in a more positive light is one that can ultimately
transform our lives.
I had an
interesting reminder of the power of perspective recently
when I was on vacation in June in the Adirondack Mountains
with my oldest friend and her 6 year-old daughter, Jie. We
climbed a little mountain one day and after we had hiked for
awhile, Jie, who had never climbed such a peak in her life
to date, started asking the classic “Are we there yet?”
every 5 or 10 minutes.
To be honest, I
was starting to wonder the same thing because, although I
had hiked this trail before, it had been rerouted and I was
unsure of our location. Jie seemed tired, and her mom did as
well, so I decided to see if we were getting close to the
rocky summit with the incredible views that we were hoping
for. I told my friend and Jie that I was going to scout
ahead and see if we were almost there. No sooner had the
word “scout” fallen from my mouth, than Jie burst out “Can I
scout too?” “Sure,” I said and proceeded off at a brisk
pace. Jie kept up, instantly energized by her changed
perspective.
This astonished
me and her mom. We were reminded once again of the power of
reframing a situation and the power of even one word.
One of my clients
gave me permission to share the story of how she reframed
the sale of her home, which she thought she would live in
forever. She realized the incredible freedom the sale gave
her, the freedom to travel, to quit her job if she chose to
and the freedom to start all over with much less baggage.
Like a cork released under water, she popped up, full of
energy for her new life.
Another example:
every day I work “full out” because I love my coaching work
so much. So every night I am pretty well “used up.” In the
past, I went to bed thinking, “I’m exhausted.” Realizing
this was not the best word to be using, I changed it to “I
am really ready for a great night’s sleep.” Instead of
programming myself for burnout, I chose the perspective of
how wonderful it is to live fully every day and then get
this wonderful restorative sleep time.
The power of perspective is perhaps of greatest important
when we face a situation which has huge significance to our
future. Most of us get pretty worked up at such times. We
worry. We stress. We may make ourselves sick. We may overeat
or undereat. “So much rides on this!” we tell ourselves.
Here’s a story of a woman who used the power of perspective
to carry her through the biggest professional challenge of
her life.
If you’re not
into golf, bear with me: golf, like all sports, serves up
huge life lessons. It’s a mental game, as is so much of
life. Hilary Lunke has been on the professional women’s golf
circuit for two years after graduating with a Masters in
Sociology from Stanford University. This year, she hadn’t
played well enough to automatically qualify to play in the
US Open, the most prestigious tournament in women’s golf. So
she had to play two rounds in the days preceding the
tournament to even qualify to play. She qualified by one
stroke. On July 7, 2003, Hilary, basically an unknown
golfer, became this year’s US Open winner. She won over
$500,000, twice what the 2nd place finisher won, whom she
beat by one stroke. She beat out Annika Sorenstam and every
other top player. Last year, her income was $30, 509.
How did she pull
this off? In her interviews it seemed that, in addition to
her hot “short game,” she reframed each shot in her mind and
took the pressure off. She did not say to herself on every
shot that she had to do great, so much was riding on this,
don’t screw it up, etc. She said, “I kept tricking my mind
saying you're just playing golf, you're just playing golf,
another day of golf, the way you always do it.” She also
reframed the importance of this event, telling herself how
lucky she was to be outside, earning a living playing golf,
when there were so many other things going on in the world
that were much more important.” With the power of her
perspective, Lunke catapulted herself into the top ranks of
women golfers and changed her life forever.
So whether it’s
scouting on a trail, selling your beloved house, going to
sleep at night, or playing for high stakes, let’s remember
the power of perspective. The more we apply the immense
power that comes in changing our perspective, the more our
life will flow with a power that will astound us and
increase the abundance in our lives exponentially.
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